How to Go About Having Sex for the First Time After Birth

Following birth, many people do not feel ready to start having sex for several months, while on the other hand some are eager to go within a number of weeks. Both are okay and completely normal!

It’s important to go at your own pace. You’ve just been through the life changing event of giving birth which has likely been quite emotional and taken an immense toll on your body, so be patient with yourself and your partner should be too. It’s important to let them know how you are feeling so they can better understand your needs.

Remember intimacy doesn’t just have to be about intercourse – it can be as simple as cuddling, kissing, and holding hands, giving each other a massage, or enjoying other aspects of sex, like foreplay. Intercourse may feel a little uncomfortable at first but it should not be painful. If you’re breastfeeding, you’re likely to be a little drier than usual so it is recommended to use a silicone-based lubricant to make sex more enjoyable.

If you are experiencing any pain during sex, speak to your GP or book in to see a pelvic health physiotherapist for a postnatal assessment.

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